Desire Discrepancy & Mismatched Libido

That “Dry Spell”

It’s been months or even years since the last time you and your partner had sex.

Porn or masturbation has become your way of relieving sexual tension and frustration.

An unresolved issue in your relationship impacted your interest in sex or your ability to feel desire toward your partner.

When You Have a Higher Libido

One of you has a high libido and would enjoy frequent sex, while for the other, sex has become more of an obligation than something to look forward to.

You feel judged for your interest in sex, while your partner feels pressured to have sex.

Frustration is brought on because your partner doesn’t ever seem in the mood for sex, so you have just given up and stopped trying.

When You Have a Lower Libido

You struggle with desire and don’t often feel in the mood for sex.

Pressure and stress come from your career, parenting, or finances atake a toll on your feeling relaxed and sexy.

Sex has become just another box to check on your already long “to-do” list.

Breaking Down the Differences

One of you has fantasies, kinks, or an interest in BDSM, while the other person feels confused, intimidated, or turned off by it.

Your partner’s interest in sex seems excessive and selfish, and they have little interest in understanding your needs and preferences.

Don’t let a difference in your sex drives or differences in your sexual interests create a wedge between you.

Don’t let this build up any longer between you.

I am an experienced therapist who specializes in sexual issues, and I can help move you out of feeling defeated, lonely, or frustrated about your sex life.

Your relationship is too important to throw in the towel.

You both deserve to have a healthy and satisfying sex life. Let me help make that possible for you.

How do we even begin to talk about this?

Most often, there are sexual differences and an inability to talk about those differences without fear, judgment, blame, or shame.

It can feel hopeless when there is a breakdown in desire and sexual intimacy, but it’s important to ask some questions.

What turns you on and what turns you off? What about your partner? Do you even know?

How I Help

Through our work together, you will learn about the wide variety of differences in sexual desire and sexual interests.

I will help you talk about your sexual differences in a way that creates curiosity and closeness rather than conflict and distance.

I can help you learn how to foster and ignite your desire and that of your partner.

Benefits of Sex Therapy

With my help guiding the discussions, you will begin to feel a closeness and intimacy with your partner.

You will remember the initial attraction that brought you together and feel a renewed sense of excitement and passion for each other.

You will gain a deeper understanding of your sexuality and that of your partners, creating confidence in yourself.

What once felt like a huge rift between you will now feel like interesting and unique differences that actually bring curiosity and excitement to your relationship.

Work with me.

Rekindle your attraction for your partner and cultivate a sense of safety and trust with each other.

Take more emotional and sexual risks with each other. Intimacy, passion, and joy will naturally grow from this renewed sense of closeness.

Don’t let the opportunity to have a healthy sex life pass you by!

Call today at (929) 919-1519. Together, we’ll bring the desire and sex back to your relationship.